Blended Family Formula's Life Coaching
|Posted on May 1, 2016 at 10:45 AM||comments (0)|
so I'm a big process person- there is a process that has to be done so we make sure all options/areas/issues have been explored... (you never know what can be uncovered!) but when you have to jump out of line and jump around due to the wonderful yet topsy- turvy issues dealing with children that may not be possible.
When issues come up- I have to remember "deal with emotions first, discipline after". Reasoning with a child is hard enough, but when you are able to calm a child down to where they are listening and no longer reacting, they will understand what transpired and be able to accept the consequences and lesson better. Not easy being a parent, its tough always trying to be emotionally stronger to keep it cool- and not lose the opportunity for a teachable moment.... if you can state "I see you are frustrated/angry/sad..." i'm sorry you feel that way. Can you tell me why this (situation) got you upset.... something like that.... and then if you can try that with the other child (if there is another one involved) the dialogue will keep the children communicating and the parents can get a better solution in a calmer fashion.
|Posted on April 27, 2016 at 10:05 PM||comments (0)|
Sometimes we don't make the right choices... sometimes we let our anger get the better of us.... it happens- sometimes there is only so much a person can take.... but then own it and make it better.... i saw this and i really liked it..."Don't play victim to circumstances you created"- which to means to me- ok a bad choice was made yesterday, fix any wrongs and now create good choices going forward. To me- the best revenge is being successful (have you heard that before?- i have and it makes sense) and if you achieve your goals they will say - maybe they did have their stuff together, or- good for them- he/she/they seem to be happy/ healthier now....or maybe they had the right thoughts....
the same can be said about weight loss... ok so you had a rough day yesterday and had a 2nd (or 3rd) piece of cake... you realize now you have to kick your butt harder to get those calories out of your body.... don't emotionally beat yourself up... we are human. My vice is oreo cookies! (they are small and I can eat many!) but sometimes, after a disagreement with my 7 year old daughter (who seems to be turning 15 sometimes!) I may need a few extra.... the point is being happy AND healthy- tomorrow is a new day, make better choices, let yesterday go by with the new dawn and be the best YOU you can be today... lets share in strength... call me if you need some
|Posted on March 11, 2016 at 6:25 PM||comments (0)|
I loved seeing this one- " I choose to be unstoppable. I am bigger than my concerns and worries. The strength of others inspire me daily. I focus on my goal. I trust my intuition and live a courageous life"..... Its not easy when we are searching for answers. But if we write down what we know is true within, then we can focus on those other concerns. When we give ourselves downtime to think about these concerns, an answer does come. Write that down too. When you have these concerns written down- with answers- then create your path to achieving your goal.... When the answers are authentic (meaning coming from you, from your core) you own them. You own that path- it feels right.... not saying it wont be hard... but its worth the journey when its yours....
|Posted on February 28, 2016 at 8:50 PM||comments (0)|
Has everyone been able to enjoy the warmer weather? i hope so! Get outside when you can and get to the park, walks and play soccer, kickball or any sports. My chiildren and I have been taking the bikes outside and they have just loved it! These are the things that make lifetime memories! Enjoy!
|Posted on January 24, 2016 at 5:55 PM||comments (0)|
Real difficulties can be overcome; it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable."
- Theodore N. Vail
When upset about a something, in your mind, its hard to not let it grow and fester into an even uglier and nastier situation than it is. Try to stay grounded. In these moments of extreme emotion, take a few very deep breaths, calm the mind (and the body down!)... If you can stay grounded, you can keep the negative emotions on both sides at a point where you can bring it back to civility. You may even find a solution in these moments of calmness where you can think clearly. Take ownership where you need to. That often will make the other person look to themselves to take a calmer approach. It is not easy- I do understand, but its when sides get to fever pitch levels where nothing good can come out of it, but keep yourself grounded and mind in the hear and now. Try to get the good to come out of a situation- Try "I'm sorry that we aren't able to see eye to eye on this, but lets work together to get to an amicable place. Let's look at the options we have, and then go from there". That should bring fresh air to get things going in the right direction.
|Posted on January 1, 2016 at 3:50 PM||comments (103)|
It's a New Year! Time to take a deep breath and relish in taking in the knowledge of 2015 and using it to better ourselves in 2016! My Motto this year is " I go for the joy! Life is here for me to enjoy TODAY!" Let go of any past hurts and take a look at all you have now- what ever you are grateful for- and relish in those people and gifts that are unique to you! Let go of anything holding you back- old hurts, negative people, negative situations- step by step- you can teach yourself to release anything negative and embrace the positive! Say BYE to 2015 and HELLO to 2016! I wish you Health and Happiness... and Joy!
|Posted on December 25, 2015 at 9:00 PM||comments (0)|
Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays to Everyone! It has been a wonderful time seeing family these last few days and still another family gathering on Sunday for us! I know its stressful but think of how many loved ones you have helped make these days memorable by just being there! Its a great time to spend quality time with family from near and far- and really connect! I hope you have re-connected with loved ones and can feel the difference that we all make in each others lives! Continue that connection through out the new year! All the Best! Your Life Coach~ Christine
|Posted on December 14, 2015 at 7:25 PM||comments (0)|
hello there! is this a crazy time or what? Remember to make lists to help stay organized for gifts and for holiday parties- especially if you are cooking! It's hard to keep orgnanized in this wonderful yet chaotic time! Also remember to take some time for yourself as its especially stressful- take deep breaths before responding or use the ever useful counting to 10 (while breathing deelply to collect your thoughts and calm down any high emotions!) Explain to your significant other if you especially stressed out- and dont forget to ask for help! Give people a chance to show you they can really be a part of the team!
|Posted on November 29, 2015 at 11:05 AM||comments (0)|
When Thanksgiving comes it is a magical time! You have a special time period- under 30 days- to create magical memories for you and your family. Sometimes, the people and things may not go the way you have planned, or even people may not feel the energy you feel. But you may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them. Make it magical for those still a part of an event or a gathering. Sometimes, its not about a grand party, but about having quality time with those that are there.
I have a 4 and a 6 year old. I see what brightens their eyes and their beings and I create other activities around it. I put up our tree the day after Thanksgiving. I bought an inexpensive train last year and my 4 year old son was so excitied to set it up. We then created a story line with 2 small stuffed animals about how Santa was going to bring the presents with the train! It really was so much fun and this went on for an hour. Children come alive when you play with them! And now we have a new tradition! Create you own! All the best to you and your family this season!
PS- Text me if you need any coaching with creating fun games for various ages AND how to deal with special guests that might be staying.... All a part of the holidays!
|Posted on November 7, 2015 at 7:55 PM||comments (0)|
Time has been going so quickly! Life is really busy sometimes! With this beautiful fall we have been having, i was reminded to really take in the colors and get outside to play in the leaves! Very soon- it will get cold-then new fun activities can be had (following hot chocolate of course!) I had a "smell the roses" moment- and on my own walks, i just took in the senses and sounds and breathed.... Life does become busy, doesn't it? it's rare we take a moment- but being "Present" every day is a start- take advantage of every conversation you have with your children and your significant other- put down the device/ipad/laptop and talk to each other- slow down the time! stay in the present- its just truly wonderful what you will now be a part of, that you were missing! Enjoy