Blended Family Formula's Life Coaching
|Posted on February 10, 2017 at 9:25 PM|
I read this recently- "Hurting someone can be as easy as throwing a stone in the sea. But do you have any idea how deep that stone can go?" It's so difficult when you are angry to hold ones tongue. We are all guilty of it. They say take the emotion out when you speak. It takes so much practice- yet who wants to be that upset all the time right? so when you are angry, try to put the conversation on hold- say you need to take a break before discussing further for the sake of the relationship..... take a walk, take time to cry and yell in an empty place, or whatever you need to do!- and when you are calmer, call the other person back - or ask to speak to them one on one- DONT DO THIS ON EMAIL! if you have said something out of anger- apologize first- then speak calmly but speak your truth- in the "I" form- I felt hurt when... from my perspection i saw it like this..... no YOU are a jerk, and YOu are a (blank)- that Aint gonna work so again, breath..... and if you need a break, take it, then resume the conversation..... its not easy, not for anyone, but the more practice you get at focusing on the issue, not emotions, you will soon see the benefit of conducting yourself in this manner is better for all....